Handling Aggression

“My five-year-old son bent down and picked up a wooden building block. He looked up, caught my eyes, and then deliberately hurled the block at me.

He certainly knew that throwing blocks with the intention of hurting me was not okay. So why did he do it?”

It never makes sense to let a child’s aggression go unanswered but we need to target the real problem: we need to turn the child’s sense of disconnection around, and heal those fears stuck in our child’s implicit memory.

Here’s how…

Handling Aggression: Setting Limits with the Vigorous Snuggle


Jade Williams Play Therapy.
Child Counsellor and Play Therapist.
Kingston Upon Thames, Elmbridge, Esher, Richmond, Surbiton, Hampton, Hounslow, Epsom and Ewell, Mole Valley.
Play Therapy in Surrey.

Society expects

“Society expects children to act like mature little adults, and this unreasonable expectation puts undue pres­sure on parents to have their children perform well, especially in public. Children are not small adults. Their brains have a lot of developing to do. Often, we punish them for something they have absolutely no control over: an underdevel­oped brain. We assume they have negative intentions toward us when in reality they do not.
With expectations that children should act like adults comes great disappointment when they act like children.”
– Rebecca Eanes, Positive Parenting: An Essential Guide

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Jade Williams Play Therapy.
Child Counsellor and Play Therapist.
Kingston Upon Thames, Elmbridge, Esher, Richmond, Surbiton, Hampton, Hounslow, Epsom and Ewell, Mole Valley.
Play Therapy in Surrey.